You know what, I think I was reading this all wrong, LOL... the tie has to do with both male & female... the one who lets go of the tie is not the male but her, shes the one holding on, when she relaxes she lets go... so if its only last a short time then thats good, whatever your doing to her to keep her calm is working... so if thats what you are talking about then its not that bad... usually the 1st or 2nd time will be longer. Hope this helps a little more. |