Wow! That IS a really tough situation. I am all for helping out family members. I, myself, am still living at home but I am 20yrs old and still in college. But I know some parents don't even allow their kids to stay that long so I am very thankful.
At the same time, I think it's kind of rude to basically "invite yourself" to live with someone (meaning he sounds like he basically invited himself to live with the grandparents). I know, for me, I like my privacy and I think a whole family moving into my peaceful house would bother me. That's a shame that he is taking things on you when you willingly offered to give him and his family a place to live.
I deal with issues similar to that in my family. My uncle used to be a major league baseball player so he has quite a bit of money. There are some members of our family who believe they are entitled to it for some reason or the other and I think they often forget how much he's really done for ALL of us financially at one point or another. One person will get jealous if he pays for another to do something, etc, it's neverending. I know it's a little different but it's the same principle.
I don't really have any advice for you, but I want to wish you luck. I hope your brother starts thinking straight. |