Personally, I think you are having more husband problems than you are having puppy problems. Your puppy may be more difficult than some, but his behaviour is still typical of most puppies.
You have a few choices:
1) One is not keeping the puppy because it is causing so many problems with your husband. (I personally would resent my husband forever, if I had to resort to this.)
2) Another is keeping the puppy in spite of your husband (not a good solution either).
3) The best solution is to come up with something that is acceptable to the whole family
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What might work is : ---- Ask your husband for a period of time to work things out with the puppy (three months at least). Have him agree that he has to be involved, be nicer, and work with you to try and help solve some of the problems you are having with the puppy.
During this time, go to puppy training classes with your pup. This could be very helpful. But, you must have your husband and son agree that what you learn in these classes will be reinforced by the whole family at home.
Hopefully, in three month's time, your husband will become more attached to the puppy, and also during this time, the puppy's behavior will improve because he has been to training classes, and you have all learned better how to work with him, and because he is older.
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If your husband agrees to and works with the above plan, you have to really cook him all his favorite meals, etc., and let him know constantly how much you appreciate it.
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The down side is (of course) -- if things don't work out or haven't improved after three months, you have agreed to let your puppy go to a new home.
You have to put your marriage first - but, working together with a plan for a specified period of time might help you solve most of the problems you are having with the little pup. And, then all of you can enjoy the little guy, and he'll be a real member of the family.
Good luck! Carol Jean |