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Originally Posted by nana911  I guess the best analogy is to compare a Yorkie to a child, literally. If your fiancee had a child when you came into the relationship, and you decided to love and 'adopt' the child as yours and commit to raising the child as yours for as long as the child lived and then began to have disciplinary problems with the child, then what would your options be?
Would you rely solely on the advice from a forum and at the same time state that you didn't have time because of your schedule? Would you crate the child? Would you point out the flaws in discipline to your fiancee and expect her to carry on while you are gone? Would you say you don't have time to seek professional help due to your schedule? Would you list a litany of your professional responsibilities as the reason for not seeking immediate help for your possibly special needs child now?
Yorkies are a special breed and more childlike than any other breed. They require the attention, training and care of a child. Until they are secure in their relationship, environment and training they cannot just be left alone on their own, in the same way you cannot leave an infant alone.
This dog has gone beyond that and been damaged in many ways. You have to not only start from scratch, you have to undo...this is going to require not only time, but your presence. An xpen is a good idea, walks are a good idea, playtime and bonding exercises are all good ideas but all require time and are suggestions to augment some professional help. If you cannot devote the time necessary then you need to re-think this entire endeavor.
You can laugh, if you will, that these are just dogs, but you have landed in a forum, where, these are most certainly not, just dogs.
And, btw, a mature male, if he cannot use the grammatically correct term for a female dog, i.e. bitch has some serious issues. Please don't tell me you say tinkle....LOL |
I'm not laughing on your analogy here. Not at all. I can say there is a good difference between children and dogs. As pointed out on the forum here, the mentalities between such are different where a dog is unable to cognate vindictive behavior and other forms of higher intelligence. Babies learn to speak and communicate in such cognitive behavior. No, I wouldn't crate a toddler. I wouldn't leave them unsupervised. I wouldn't do anything but what is necessary to raise them when I am ready to have them. I don't know that my fiance was ready to get this pup when she did...but I'm not dwindling on the past, I'm looking ahead.
It's not that I can't use the word, it's because I don't wish to in reference to this particular dog. I don't cuss much to begin with - usually when I'm physically hurt. I don't have issues, I must just think differently about things like that. I'm also around my nephews and nieces at times - so getting in the habit of using "clean" words happened a long time ago... On another note, I have a friend that doesn't know his father (detective, died on a accident investigation when another motorist hit him) - I don't call him a bastard because it's proper.
I'm listening to your suggestions. Believe me, no post is ignored or info in one ear and out the other.