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Originally Posted by Luvdogs2  She doesn't get diarrhea when this happens, it must be the anxiety causing spasms or something along the digestive track making her speed up the need to go rather than vindictive. (This is one of my ignorant ideas that I was clueless on). I'll make sure that my fiance speaks with the vet about doing a checkup to make sure all the plumbing is good if I can't go for whatever reason.
As far as the same page goes, I was supposed to be back home to get into my work about 1am because I waited for her to get home from work. I wanted to show her the progress and using the speak in order to go outside so she would try doing it over the weekend I was going to be gone. It became a 3 hour talk about working together. She got pretty defensive about things and we talked a great deal about where I am thinking and where she is thinking. I explained, with the help of those posting here, a lot of what I have learned and what we should try to do. I didn't tell her to do anything though she felt like I was...which she said was her problem. I swear, I was presenting things to her on a level of which I'm not going to bark orders, I want to try doing some things and it won't work unless she is helping. I also asked her to come up with ideas too and I'll work with her as well. Another patron of this site mentioned that women don't like being told how to raise their children or pets...and that statement is very true. We also spoke about kids and I brought up the fact that if we can't work together on this dog, how are kids even going to be possible? I love kids, my nephews and nieces will drop anything they are doing to spend time with me and I try to do something with them at every opportunity I can - which, sadly isn't anywhere as much as I would like to.
We weren't fighting, but we weren't smiling through this talk, but by the end of the conversation, we were smiling and joking and it was a good situation. I just wish it wasn't 4:30 in the morning when I got to my shop and started working. I went to bed about 6 and got up at 10 to get back to work.
I think I have established the source on the biting idea. I must have been moving too fast around my fiance because I about got it again last night. I was getting ready to leave and when I bent down to give my fiance a kiss, I ran my hand up her leg to her waist for the start of a hug (she was climbing in bed for the evening) and a bolt of gray and cinnamon from the side of the bed to stop with her jaw resting on my hand and a serious look on the face. That may have been the cause of one of the bites anyway. She must be acting in an over protective mode since I'm new in comparison.
We'll get this. I know it won't happen overnight, but I'm persistent in anything I do. I think my fiance is on the same page too - and after the talks, I think she had the right idea on some of the training methods she had tried before, I just don't think she was doing them long enough by the suggestions by you all and research I have done. Point in fact, in the conversation last night, she said she tried a trainer...when I asked how many sessions I was told almost 2 weeks. I don't think that's enough with 95% of the dogs out there (not just Yorkies).
The dog is in a good home and she will be staying in this home. I hope to be reporting some major changes and exciting new through the next months for you all to read. |
Sounds like you guys are off to a good start. It seems like she's willing to listen to your ideas, now you have to help her go through with them.
Okay, on the biting thing, since you think you've figured it out... One of my dogs after we brought him home started getting protective over me. My husband was working night shift and I was in bed when he would come home. Both dogs would run to the door and greet him all happily, then Smokey would come back and lay across my chest, look him square in the eye, and growl. If you think she is growling and biting over defense for her, your girlfriend needs to be the one to correct her. For a while my husband was the one that tried to correct that behavior and it didn't work.
I had to put Smokey on the floor immediately and say "No!" firmly and he wasn't allowed back up for a little bit (like a few minutes) until he understood that I didn't need protecting from my own husband. About a week of being kicked off the bed by me, he stopped and hasn't done it since.