Originally Posted by Luvdogs2  Ok, first off I'm going to apologize for venting through this at times, but I'm at whits end.
I've been seeing my now fiance for a few years and when I first met her and met the dog, I played with it and looked forward to seeing both my girl and her dog. It didn't take long before I wanted nothing to do with the dog - when you hear about how she messed in the cage or on the floor a few times a week, it gets pretty old.
The guy she was seeing before I started dating her claimed that his biggest problem was because of the dog...for what that is worth.
Ok, here's the story, I'm a full time student of Mechanical Engineering, she is a full time nurse also studying for her bachelors in nursing. We are both graduating soon, we are both plus and minus 30 years old. I come from a farm, have had 6 dogs through the years and I've trained each and every one of them with mountains of success. Fiance - been around a few dogs, this one in discussion is her first and it knows how to do a few tricks, but can't be let out of sight because the moment she does, she's tearing something up, jumping on the table, crapping or peeing on the floor/bed/wherever she can do it.
I now live with the fiance and I'm always gone for school and work, so the dog does go into the crate quite a bit. One thing is for certain, I'm not babysitting the darn thing while I'm home and studying, so she does sit in the crate while I'm reading and can't devote time to her. When fiance comes home and the dog messes in the cage, I GET THE HEAT! I finally had enough and started a feeding schedule and got rid of the auto feeder on the floor. Dog eats after we do (Alphas eat first) at noon and midnight when fiance gets home.
Dog is messing in the cage more than ever now... Let me explain why I believe so.
Fiance, feeds her about 1/3 to 1/2 cup of food in one sitting (in my opinion, too much for an adult yorkie, but I get "she's hungry and you want to starve her") between noon and 2, when she goes to work. She will run her outside for a short bit and the dog will pee, but not crap. Then she goes in the crate for 8 hours and there is a 50/50 shot whether the dog craps or not in the cage.
My thoughts - when somebody eats, what do they typically do a few hours later? But apparently I don't know what I'm doing here. I say feed her between 10am and noon every day and take her outside at 2 and stay out there for a half hour if needed so she does her thing until she gets into a cycle.
I've tried to explain things to the fiance a number of times, but I get the rolling of the eyes, the "I know" and all of the defensive arguments a person can think of. I've even gotten the "I don't have time...." - which my response of "if you don't have the time, you should find her a home with somebody that does have the time" didn't go over well.
I've talked to my mother/father about this - Dad has even commented about how this dog is going to be a problem between us.
Now, let's also get into the darn thing has bitten me 3 times now. I come from a family where if the dog bits, the dog leaves. I have shown infinite tolerance on this subject, but I have a great concern on having kids in the future with this dog here. I've asked about what happens if the dog bites a kid and I get "well, it depends on what the kid does..." I think that is absurd BS and if this animal harms my future baby or toddler....a great disturbance will be felt in the puppy force (Star Wars fan here).
Mom says if you have a serious concern, it should find a new home before a baby comes into the home - and I agree.
Now, funny part (for you all) - it normally has free reign of the bedroom at night when the fiance is sleeping and I'm out of town working. When I am home, it goes in the kennel at night because the darn thing will sneak attack and lick me in my mouth when I'm unconscious and don't have a closed mouth. I've learned my lesson after the second time. The reason I bring this up, the freaking dog will growl and show it's teeth to me when I walk in or walk by the kennel in the bedroom. Not cool.
I've never hurt, hit or done anything violent to the fiance - however, dog got a good whooping for the last bite....(it was open hand, no kicking but some side swipe shots across the nose and a LOT of yelling).
If this dog doesn't shape up, I'm not letting it into our house when we get married and I find a job in the Engineering field. I'll repeat that....If the dog doesn't get it together, she will not be welcome in our home.
Can anyone help? |