Maybe I got up on the wrong side of the bed, but I have the feeling you are trying to be the alpha over both your fiancée and her dog. Quote " I'm not letting it into our house...". Pardon me, but this is the 21st century and these days marriage is generally supposed to be a partnership, not a caveman thing.
IMNSHO, you need to have a serios talk with your fiancée about the dog and your future. Is she willing to consider giving up the dog? If not, you have only three choices - accept it and work with her on caring for the dog properly, accept it and live with it the way it is, or walk away from the relationship.
If you do stay together, I hope you will have some serious counseling together before you commit to having children because if you can't agree on how to care for a dog, you will never be able to manage children.
I thought I knew all about raising dogs from many years of experience but these toy breeds are very different from larger dogs. If you keep it, you need to get some breed-specific resources and/ or read up on all the info here to learn how to better manage its care.
And by the way, I don't think much of violence in any form, but if I had seen you strike my dog, I might have changed my mind. At the very least, I would not have spent another night under the same roof as you. You might be the nicest guy in the world at the end of your rope, but there are other ways of handling the situation. |