Leaky fridge is probably a clogged drain too. Look under the bottom crisper drawer and see if there is a drain. If it gets clogged, the condensation accumulates and then spills over instead of getting to the drain pan under the fridge where it normally evaporates. There may also be one in the freezer compartment if it is a side by side. Use a turkey baster to put some HOT water through the drain. You may have to add some baking soda and then vinegar -- just like what was recommended for a normal clogged drain.
For cleaning -- if the whole house is a mess. Clean one room -- then make it off limits until you get help with the rest of them. If they don't pitch in to help, start taking away priviledges. Do you do their laundry? Pay for their car, gas, insurance? Whatever it is -- start slowly taking away until they get the idea this is a family TEAM endeavor and everyone pulls their own weight!
But First, schedule a physical for yourself pronto! There are so many things that can affect us physically and then leave us feeling overwhelmed, a sense of doom, depressed, stressed, tired, exhausted, achey, in horrible pain, mental confusion, anxiety ......I felt all of those things and just had a bum thyroid gland. It was giving anything from a flicker to a flood, and then started going out completely. I finally had to have it removed and got on thyroid replacement and WOW, what a difference! I know a friend who had a similar experience when she needed female hormones. Just to make sure you are 100%, see the doc, let him run some blood tests and make sure. That way, at least you know you are attacking the problems at hand with all you can give them. It is tough to tackle several jobs at once when you are running on half your cylinders.
Next -- I would try to find someone you can talk to in person. It is great to always be able to come here and ask for someone to listen. There will always be someone to do that for you. But it is so much better when you have a real life person in front of you when you need to open up. If you cannot find a friend or family member, maybe a pastor, a counselor, someone who actually is trained to listen. We all need SOMEONE to listen, offer some kindness, maybe advice, but sometimes just to listen.
Finally (and although I saved this for last -- make it first on your list!) -- pray to whatever power you believe in. There is no way I could tackle life alone. Talking with my God is probably the most empowering thing I do. I know that He is with me and will help pull me through when I could never do it on my own. He gives me confidence, strength and comfort. None of us can make it through this world alone. We all need help. Don't be shy about asking.
I'm sorry your family is not being there for you. But think about the steps above and then re-evaluate. You may find, once you feel better they will seem different to you too. |