For me the decision was a gradual one, not any one "light bulb" moment, but little things over the course of a few years. When first married (21) I didn't want children or so I thought. As the years went by, I faced my fears and emotions about child raising and began to think I could do this ......also my dh wanted children very much so that made the decision easier knowing he would be a wonderful dad.
I do admire you for thinking this through so carefully, it's a monumental decision to bring human life into this world.
__________________  ~Ruby, Reno, Razz, & Jack~ |