My sons and I had this discussion several times in the last few weeks. It started because I was updating my Will. We discussed the longevity of Cissy's life and she would probably be here when I was gone, so who would take her? They both laughed because she is soooo spoiled. I jokingly told them the first one to upset me was gonna get her. Oldest son says - I love, love, love you Mom. Younger son says- need your grass mowed Mom? LOL My youngest just came home from Hollywood and I now have my very own Oscar - "Best Mother". Older son is trying figure out how he can beat that!
It has actually turned into a silly discussion for us.
A friend then told me I was doing this all wrong. I should leave "everything" to Cissy and they will be fighting over who will keep her.
All though we have this little banter - either one will take care of and love Cissy the way I do, same as they do with their furkids. Although some find the subject depressing, I feel better knowing "things" have been handled and leaves so much less for my sons to have to deal with, sparing them some of the painful decisions.