Originally Posted by FlDebra  I know a common complaint with many of our more knowledgeable breeders and/or owners is that when they do try to pass on information they are labled as mean, preaching, or rude. That gets old after a while. They love the breed so much they want to pass on their experience but only the RIGHT way.
They don't hold to breeding out of standard, untested, ultra-small, poor breed example dogs. They don't have patience for those who do not put the needs of their dogs first and money second. They don't like hearing about people breeding with no idea of what they are doing and who only come for help after things go wrong. They don't like people figuring ways to get cheap yorkies when they have no means of providing them with the kind of care they may need. They don't like doing ANY business with pet stores that sell cats and dogs. They don't have any love for the dirt of the earth people who run puppymills, back yard breeders, or those who would sell a sick or injured dog.
I probably should not be speaking for them but I know many of these things weighed heavily on mind too and I am a novice ex-breeder. After I lost my husband, and then not long after that Sadie, I just did not have it in me to keep speaking up in these kinds of threads knowing I'd often get guff, but I felt like ignoring them was tacit approval and I could not feel good about that either. So, I went away for a year. I think a lot of people do the same.
You just get sort of tired seeing the same sort of abuse, mistreatment, neglect, screwed up priorities. You try to head things off at the pass and give info where you can, sometimes even having to offer rescue as an alternative for someone in dire straits. Then you get some self-appointed judge with no real experience calling you mean, rude, or not using your brain. You can usually just shake them off like a little kid calling names on a playground, but some days it just flat ticks you off!
It is easier to stay in the real world where the people I associate with all treat their dogs like family, take great care of them and don't breed irresponsibly. But then you run across an old email from someone special on Yorkie Talk and remember why you were a member for years. There are just so many great people here that they really do overshadow the few .... I'll call them uneducated and unenlightened. This is a special place that draws me back. I have taken two breaks from here and missed a lot of people each time. But taking a break can be good for a person so they don't become too jaded and give up the good fight!
I am sure there are many other reasons people take a break or leave altogether. A fight with someone, a perceived slight by someone, a new job, no time, computer broke, stopped paying for online service, maybe they lost their yorkie and it is just too painful, found another forum, just too busy living life..... could be anything. |