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Originally Posted by celstu1  I would say to let it blow over. Maybe send them a letter telling them that you are hurt that they would think such horrible things about you after all this time. You are going through a hard time yourself with your parents divorce and being so far away from them and you'd appreciate their support instead of their criticism. Once his sister needs something from you again, you'll be back in their good graces. Just remember though, this is WHO they are, and you will inherit them as family if you stay with your boyfriend. Sometimes I find it's easier to appease people and keep your mouth closed so they have no ammo against you, rather than to fight your position. Some people will just never get it. Some people think the world is against them and are always waiting for the other shoe to drop and someone else to 'screw them' (in their eyes). |
great advice!
I have been married for 12 years. if you plan on having a life with him. dont argue with them, let them believe the are right and act like eveything is okay. it will blow over. a letter may help, you can think before you say anything harsh, tell them how hurt you are and what you are going through right now and if you are to remain as family you all have to get along. LIke the other poster said, dont fight it , some people just dont get it, to fight for your position will never work for some people. it will be harder on you to not accept the way some people are, especially family, than not. AND learn to kindly say NO once in a while, they will appreciate you when you do say yes.
I am so sorry to hear of your parents divorce. I hope things change there too.