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Originally Posted by chattiesmom  My advice may go against the grain and I apologize if I offend anyone. I speak from personal experience, both with inlaws (blessed with good ones for almost 30 years) and the bf's gf's of my three grown children.
I am so very sorry you are having BF family problems. Unfortunately, you can choose a BF, but you can choose your BF's family. They are part of the package deal. It is NOT fair for you to ask or expect your BF to alienate his family on your behalf -- however YOU should not be required to interact with them. If you choose a life long relationship with this man, remember his family will become part of your family and will always be there either as an active part of his life or lurking in the background waiting to cause problems. |
The thing is that my BF doesn't want to deal with his family, cause they are alway negative and complaint about almost everything. I was the one who always told him to call his family to say hi. I know that his family is part of who he is and I tried my best to help him to keep good relationship with them, but sometimes it is just too much. I already paid for his mom's house in FL which was about to be foreclosed. She was supposed to pay me back in 6month. when I asked her for money well after 6month, I became this evil bitch according to her. They always ask me for help and if I don't .... well you know...
