You said they've been together 3 1/2 months. After this much time, I'm afraid your Pom may never become close friends with your new little dog.
I have many times introduced new little puppies and kittens into my family and have never had them go longer than a few weeks before they became fast friends.
I had one dog that was very jealous of a new puppy I brought home. The first time she saw the little guy, she somehow got hold of him and threw him off the front porch. He was screaming his head off and I thought she had seriously hurt him. It scared me to death. But, the little pup ended up not being seriously injured. I spanked my dog very (very) hard for doing this.....it was the only spanking she ever got in her life and she definitely never hurt the puppy again. She did a little growling for a week or two and then shortly after that, she decided the little guy wasn't so bad after all -- and they became wonderful friends. They run together outside and play together a lot in the house. They eat together and sleep together also. (Sadly, I had to put my older dog to sleep a few months ago - it was shortly after this that I got my new little Yorkie.)
Currently -Louie, my Bichon, has become very friendly and playful with my new little Yorkie. It took them about two weeks to start really playing with one another. (And, of course, the Bichon is about 5 times bigger than the little pup.) Now they drive me crazy running and playing all over the house. And, more often than not, it's the Bichon that I'm running to rescue. The puppy jumps up and grabs hold of his ears and won't let go. Poor Louie often drags the puppy to me so I can get him off one of his ears. And occasionally, I lift Louie up on the bed so he can get away from the puppy and just rest. That puppy has 100 times more energy than anyone in this house.
This is why I think your Pom not warming up to the puppy after three months might mean she never will. Nevertheless, animals usually learn to live together and tolerate one another very well --they just don't become playful loving friends. This may be the kind of relationship your dogs end up having. And, it's really not bad at all.
Good luck!!! Carol Jean |