Tammy I am so sorry for your loss. Please do not allow one person to push you away. What she says means nothing. You obviously are a strong person and have proven that time and again in your life I am sure.
As my granddad told me many times and I am sure you have heard many times..
"You can't fix stupid". Those that chose not to learn and chose not to be civil have their place in hell.
Hugs to you Tammy