Okay, since you asked. First off, I am a mom of 2 little girls and are we are expecting our 3rd in April. That being said, I am a firm believer in you can do anything you put your heart to. From your situation, you raise a lot of HUGE questions that are very personal. However, I believe these things will come in time. For example, when my husband and I got married, I wanted kids right away and he didn't. However, one day he looked and asked if we could start trying. Now 3 kids later, I do not regret it at all. I would say that you aren't ready right now and that your best bet would be focus on getting to a stable place in your relationship and in your personal life.
You will never feel financial comfortable with having a child. Well at least in my experience. There are ways to help cut the cost, but thats another story!
Anyways, after all my rambling the point I wanted to make is, when you are ready you will know. If you never feel ready, then that is your answer.
Kids shouldn't be a burden. Yes, some days are going to be awful and you want them gone. But, the sweet smiles and Mommy I love you's are worth it.
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