There are great suggestions here. Try them until you find the key.
I know how you feel when you are ignored by the one thing in your life that asks for nothiing yet gets everything you have to offer. Oh yeah, they do ask for (everything) just by looking at you with those soleful eyes.
**If the previous suggestions don't work try the opposite technique (emotionally more difficuilt for us): ignore her. Just let her move in your world being nice but not needy. Don't approach her, let her come to you. Believe it or not this creates a desire in them that drives them to you. It does work, so when all else fails, ignore her. Feed her, love her but again, don't approach her.
Sometimes we are so traumtized by what we have (or have not) done that we actually create a problem where there was none.
There is usually a quicker recovery using this technique than when trying too hard to overcome whatever set this in motion. They need time to process the situation and work it out.
I use this often with rescue dogs that commonly have a trust issue. Just being there and not trying too hard to get close works wonders.
** I truely want to help and only present scenarios that have worked well for me in similar situations, because sometimes:
" Ignoring a behavior creates balance and calm." Kenisms
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