[yorkfamily]

Hi everyone first thread..I will tell you about our Lola Belle. We adopted her when she was 1 1/2 she had been kennelized her whole life..she was an "undesirable" as she had longer back legs then the desired tea cup puppies..I was told she was kennelized to keep her from being breed..as part of my contract with the breeder we had her spayed but only after she had gotten to know us..at the time it was just my husband and I when we brought her into quiet house she seemed tramatized and catatonic..she had not only been kept in a cage but outside in a barn with dozens of other barking terriers..she had no will to play or get up or even look at us..and all we wanted to do was desperatley love her..it took months for her to warm up to us..she then started to follow me around our house we tried every method to house break her i have the yorkshire terries quide for dummies among many small breed dog books...anyway we lived in a very cold climate and a third floor apartment with only tar for a back yard so we could never take her outside because she just stood froze in the snow..my husband and i have moved three times since we had her...we tried to get her to be house broken many times took her outside and she refused to stand up and just laid in the grass..pulls her leash when attempting to control her...My dog is not aggressive at all!! shes the most timid dog I have ever met..more life a cat she doesnt bark or do anything most dogs do. our current apartment we moved into when i was six months pregnant around that time things kinda became out of control she rebelled stopped coming when called and just decided she would totally ignore me and lavish her father with attention while looking in my direction..but she doesnt take him seriously either...she gets up on our furniture even though she gets yelled and and removed everytime..we have never hit her but have scolded her..we tried to set up boundries and she overturned them...put her in pack n play..she jumped out put up baby gates to contain her messes she would jump over them..she just does as she pleases...steals our dirty underwear and eats them...chews up paper products SHE IS 4 years old!!! and seems to get worse every year!! She now pees and poops on our daughters floor in the nursery and snubs our 10 month old when she tries to get close to her..she doesnt even come to us anymore!!! and no matter what we do she just makes life difficult in a weird quiet non barking or aggressive way..also she gets very nervous and shakes and when there is a lightning storm she just pants and gasps and acts irrational or any loud noise for that matter..she runs up the stairs and through the house whenever you try to get her to come.I am again pregnant with our next child and now am fearing the constant strain she is causing our family...my heart aches at the thought of letting her go...but what can a wife, mom of two children 13 months apart under 1 yrs old and full time online student do? I think she needs some serious yorkie rehab and maybe we can no longer give her the love and serious attention she needs....i need some words of encouragement or at least some ideas as to what i should do...I am willing to try..I still have much love for her...