This is very common, and you are so right in not correcting her. Also, you are correct in not having your friend pet her.
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Most submissive urinators are especially sensitive to people's body language and vocal tones. Loud, angry voices and happy, squeaky voices both act as triggers. Likewise, imposing body movements and exciting movements can create bladder control problems.
Try to move calmly and slowly around Fido, especially in situations where he is already excited. Absolutely avoid any grabbing movements or positions where you tower over Fido. Many people naturally pet a dog by bending over the top of them and reaching for the head or sides for a nice pat or scratch. But for sensitive dogs this position makes them look up at a person who is huge and towering, making them feel small and vulnerable. Imagine how you would feel shaking hands with a person who was three times your size- you might just pee on yourself a little bit too.
Instead of bending over, try crouching or sitting with your body slightly sideways to Fido. In this position, the greeting isn't so overwhelming and Fido gets to make the overture by coming closer to get attention. When you do stand up to walk around, try looking past Fido instead of directly at him and walk to his side instead of straight to his front. These subtle changes make an amazing difference for most dogs.
Now that you understand and see the difference, try to convince all family members and visitors to follow these same "rules of engagement". The calm greeting thing can be hardest for kids, who just can't seem to help themselves from squealing with glee when they get home after school and see Fido. Time for some kid training! Make it a game or contest with your kids to see who can go 3 minutes without looking at, talking to or touching Fido or give your kid a specific task that he has to complete before greeting Fido, like putting his backpack in his room or going to the kitchen for a snack. Submissive Urination - What to do if Fido "Sprinkles"
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