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Originally Posted by jp4m2  I can understand your frustration and anger if this is what is occurring here. Unfortunately, some women will never outgrow this type of high school behavior. Their need to *belong* and be *accepted * is what drives them to gossip, and play cruel games. They will make sure that every small slight, misunderstanding or unintentional remark will get twisted so as to manipulate others into joining in on their *behind the scenes* agendas. Sadly, these types are severely lacking in maturity and in their ability to understand the cruelly, pain and hurt they leave behind in their path...These are adults who can slay with a smile and wound with a word….Hopefully, the vast majority of members here are not like this.
I just wanted to clarify that my post was to address the issue of resisting the *feeling* to respond to posts when it might just be best to just let it go….To not engage in unnecessary commentary or to engage in one - upmanship posts.....As for *tone*, us oldsters here have seen more threads addressing this topic than we care to see.....It appears that *tone* may be the least of the issues here to be worried about. After all, tone is a matter of an individuals perception ..... 
It’s too bad if what you’re describing is what's going on…..This kind of behavior is very destructive to the spirit, friendliness, and civility here and it's very destructive to the sense of community on this forum….We all talk about being respectful to each other, that everyone has an opinion and we are all here learning from each other’s experiences, but when it gets down to it it seems to be just lip service…….I'm quite saddened by this..... |
Doesn't it just kill you that most of the time these things happen, it is our gender doing it?
And, yes, you are right....sometimes it really is wiser and actually healthier to walk away. Not always easy to do. It is easy to get caught up in the heat of the moment. It is doubly hard here because there is a lot of passion involved when it comes to the pups that we all love so much.
What I described
is going on. There are always going to be disgruntled folks, but some lately have taken things to such a disturbing level. Someone yesterday sent a pm to a few of us advising us that perhaps it would be better to report such things rather than get caught up in the person's nonsense. After all, it really does feed into their disturbed agendas. We all need reminders at times. This is a great thread.