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Originally Posted by ladyjane  There are things being said and done on YT lately that have nothing to do with the tone of the posts. Everyone says things in a different manner and there is no tone in the written word. It is just like the little game we all played in school when we were young...one person whispers to someone and it travels around until it gets to the end and the last message is nothing like the first! Things get misinterpreted....and just like in real life someone might hear something totally different, on the computer people think that someone has a tone that may not even be anywhere near what the writer meant. Sadly, there are some downright nasty things being said lately on YT that many people don't even know about. Thankfully, those comments usually disappear quickly.
As for subject matter, I will never say anything online to a person that I would not say to them in real life. Anyone who knows me, knows this is a fact.
I don't see the tone of things as being a problem as much as the intent to malign people. The behind the scenes getting together for the sole purpose of trying to get rid of a YTer .. or to try to take over YT is, in my opinion, out of line.
I saw some recent happenings here that just fried my brain. I don't know where people find the time to do the dirt digging they do...or the people who get banned and keep coming here to let everyone have it. I have had emails sent to me from various sources where people are actually working behind the scenes to "take YT down". Boggles my mind. Surely there are more productive things to do. |
I can understand your frustration and anger if this is what is occurring here. Unfortunately, some women will never outgrow this type of high school behavior. Their need to *belong* and be *accepted * is what drives them to gossip, and play cruel games. They will make sure that every small slight, misunderstanding or unintentional remark will get twisted so as to manipulate others into joining in on their *behind the scenes* agendas. Sadly, these types are severely lacking in maturity and in their ability to understand the cruelly, pain and hurt they leave behind in their path...These are adults who can slay with a smile and wound with a word….Hopefully, the vast majority of members here are not like this.
I just wanted to clarify that my post was to address the issue of resisting the *feeling* to respond to posts when it might just be best to just let it go….To not engage in unnecessary commentary or to engage in one - upmanship posts.....As for *tone*, us oldsters here have seen more threads addressing this topic than we care to see.....It appears that *tone* may be the least of the issues here to be worried about. After all, tone is a matter of an individuals perception .....
It’s too bad if what you’re describing is what's going on…..This kind of behavior is very destructive to the spirit, friendliness, and civility here and it's very destructive to the sense of community on this forum….We all talk about being respectful to each other, that everyone has an opinion and we are all here learning from each other’s experiences, but when it gets down to it it seems to be just lip service…….I'm quite saddened by this.....