[Nancy1999]

Originally Posted by jp4m2

It’s helpful to have these reminders every now and then so as we can do our own “self check” as to how our own attitudes, decisions, reactions, behaviors, and choices may be affecting others. It encourages and challenges those who are willing to look at themselves with critical objectivity and have the willingness to change, to make better choices concerning our own behaviors...... Sadly, it seems that no longer is respect presumed, but rather granted. We should always show respect and consideration to our fellow human being, unless shown otherwise……..

Unfortunately,there’s going to be those few who will read these reminders and think it has nothing to do with them. They are lacking in their ability to have feelings and compassion for others. Not just on this forum but in all areas of their life. When you have to be right or in control or look superior or generally just “better than” there is no room for compassion. The feelings for others becomes secondary. There is no desire for self-examination, change, or growth.We don’t have the power to make people be other than who they are....

Some seem to believe every *feeling* needs to be expressed, as if it’s some irresistible force. Not every objectionable moment needs commentary or needs to be confronted.. Every opinion, reaction, perception, and preference is not important, necessary, or kind to reveal....... You will never get your point across by being crass, so choose your words wisely. A soft answer is better than a sarcastic one. If you say it offensively, it will be received defensively. You are never persuasive when you’re abrasive…..

I hope things improve around here......

Great post!