so i get home from a night out and i find lil miss thing out of her ex-pen ... the NEW one!!!

she's right at the door going absolutely crazy when i come in!! thank GOD i closed the door to my bedroom before i left, just in case....
i had been having trouble getting the cheap zipper to zip all the way up to the top and somehow she unzipped it from the bottom enough to get out. then she proceeded to SCRATCH UP ALL THE CARPET BY THE FRONT DOOR

it looks a hot mess, i know i'm going to have to pay for it....
then i take her outside for a pee and she won't go.... i'd been gone for about 6 hours and i fed her before i left ... i had taken her for a long walk and she went multiple times before i left, but it doesn't make sense to me that she hasn't gone in the house ... i looked around carefully and i don't see anything. her spots to go would be pretty limited since she couldn't get in my bedroom....
so i stood her outside and told her to hurry up for about 5 minutes, but she just stood there like what? why am i standing here?
between the frantic obsessive way she was acting when i arrived and the fact that she completely RUINED my carpet, along with the fact that she refused to go to the bathroom outside (though she went on my neighbor's PERSIAN RUG yesterday), i am totally at my wit's end....

do i have to crate her every time i go out? since i got the new pen and leave the door open, she won't even go IN her crate, only halfway to get the treats i put in there ... still wants none of it....
UUUUUUUUUGGGGGGGHHHHHHH!!!!
sorry for so much wingeing....