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Honeychile · 11-29-2005, 02:55 PM

I've had my furbaby for 1 month (December 1). He is a delight. Although, there are some issues. He is still being treated for kennel cough and on 2 cough suppressants and an antibiotic.

I was having trouble getting him to eat healthy foods, but he has finally accepted O&M Holistic kibble and Wellness puppy (wet food). He also eats the meat rolls and Prairie freeze dried food. They all cost me a small fortune, but he is worth it.

Here's my problem:

Peeing and pooping on the carpet 50% of the time.

Maxi will go on the paper and bolt towards me at high speeds wagging vigorously to get his treat for being a "good boy!" so clearly, he knows how to use the paper.

But the other half of the time... he will sniff out a spot and pee or poop all around the apartment (which is fully carpeted). I usually spot it immediately (we are always watching him)... and I clean it with nature's miracle. If I catch him in the act I firmly say no! and dash to lift him and place him on the paper. Lately he has been REFUSING TO GO on the paper by force. If I place him there or give him the "go potty!" command... he looks up at me dumbfounded and will just plop down on the paper and lay there. He also attempts to slink away like he's afraid. I have lightened up my voice or just stopped saying the "go potty!" command as frequently. I'll just say it once or twice as opposed to 10.

Maxi holds his pee for overnight (he sleeps in my bed) and for 4 hours while I'm at work and he's in the crate.

But lately, in the morning... he won't go on the paper if I put him on it. He will walk away from it and if I watch him or follow him he'll do nothing. If I turn away for a SECOND... he will pee on the carpet!!! WHY??? Why is he doing this?

Okay... this morning... you won't believe this. I spent 25 minutes following him around waiting for him to make his am release. I put him on the paper, I said "go potty!" I sat and watched him. I finally had to get in the shower and get ready for work. I brought him with me into the bathroom. NOTHING. He wouldn't go. I know he had to because he started to on the carpet and I interrupted him by swiftly lifting him and putting him on the paper. Plus he hadn't had his morning pee. So, the 25 minutes go by. I'm out of the shower... I put him on the paper... and say "go potty!" nothing -- he lays down on the paper. I change the paper thinking maybe it's too soiled for him... nothing.

I wait. Nothing. So, proceeding to get dressed... I put Maxi on my bed (that he too sleeps on... )and I turn my back. I turned back around to see him squatting and PEEING HIS LONG MORNING PEE ON MY BED!!!

WHHHYYYYYYY???? WHAT TO DO??????

Here's where I'm going to get tssk tssk'd. I lost it. I yelled NO! and spanked his bottom several times. Hard. He yelped., no, he screamed BLOODY MURDER. He was DEVASTATED!

I know it was wrong. I understand if you all are upset with me. I KNOW Maxi didn't deserve this at all.

I don't wish to do this again... but I was completely frustrated and I think it was just pent up from all the pee and poop I've been patiently and silently cleaning up for the past 4 weeks. I've been working so hard to follow the training manuals by being silent when he's doing the unfavorable and lots of praise when he's good. I spend everyday WATCHING him like a hawk. I shower him with love and attention and play with him for at least an hour everynight. In addition to my husband and son. He is always underfoot, following me everywhere... can't stand to have me out of his site. He has mastered the come, sit, stay, and up! command and is now learning to roll over. In every way... he seems to know who's boss and he is very receptive to my commands. BUT, All it takes is a SECOND for me to turn away or blink and he's going on the carpet! He doesn't run to me when he does this for a treat so he must know he's wrong! Right?

I'm prepared to do whatever it takes to make amends for spanking my furbaby. I understand that this is along the lines of abuse and I do not wish to make him fearful of me. After I spanked his bottom he ran from me and hid. He would not come when I called. I put him in his crate to cool off. I left the house and 20 mins later I returned to console him and to feed him and give him his meds. He was hesitant but soon back to his upbeat and spirited self. I regret that I lost it on him and I don't want to give him up to a "more loving and tolerant home" as someone may suggest. I want to do what it takes to be more loveable and tolerant of his mistakes.

I would like to understand why he is peeing and pooping around the house even though he appears to know better.

How many papers should I have down? How often do I need to change the paper?

Any help or insight would be most appreciated.

BTW, at this time, he does not go outside at all, due to the kennel cough and the fact that he doesn't have all his shots.

Also, is it a problem that he sleeps in the bed with me? He usually sleeps at the foot of the bed. I tried to break him out of it by putting a bed in my room ( a nice tent bed) but he insists on coming up on the bed and will whimper and attempt to jump up and bark like crazy. When I pick him up on the bed... he is so grateful he can't stop kissing me. I don't mind him on the bed... but want to make sure that I haven't done something wrong.

One other thing that bothers me...

He likes to go in the kitchen and scavenge for food particles and juices that may be on the floor. This drives me NUTS. He'll have food in his bowl... but I can't get him from sneaking into the kitchen.

I will be getting a gate soon, but since I have let him have the run of the apartment, I know he will have a hard time with this. I put up pillows as a blockade and he kept at it until he found a way to get past them.

Experienced yorkie mommies and daddies please help me!

11-29-2005, 02:55 PM	#1
Honeychile Registered User Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: New York Posts: 17	I LOST it today on Maxi. Ashamed and needing Help. I've had my furbaby for 1 month (December 1). He is a delight. Although, there are some issues. He is still being treated for kennel cough and on 2 cough suppressants and an antibiotic. I was having trouble getting him to eat healthy foods, but he has finally accepted O&M Holistic kibble and Wellness puppy (wet food). He also eats the meat rolls and Prairie freeze dried food. They all cost me a small fortune, but he is worth it. Here's my problem: Peeing and pooping on the carpet 50% of the time. Maxi will go on the paper and bolt towards me at high speeds wagging vigorously to get his treat for being a "good boy!" so clearly, he knows how to use the paper. But the other half of the time... he will sniff out a spot and pee or poop all around the apartment (which is fully carpeted). I usually spot it immediately (we are always watching him)... and I clean it with nature's miracle. If I catch him in the act I firmly say no! and dash to lift him and place him on the paper. Lately he has been REFUSING TO GO on the paper by force. If I place him there or give him the "go potty!" command... he looks up at me dumbfounded and will just plop down on the paper and lay there. He also attempts to slink away like he's afraid. I have lightened up my voice or just stopped saying the "go potty!" command as frequently. I'll just say it once or twice as opposed to 10. Maxi holds his pee for overnight (he sleeps in my bed) and for 4 hours while I'm at work and he's in the crate. But lately, in the morning... he won't go on the paper if I put him on it. He will walk away from it and if I watch him or follow him he'll do nothing. If I turn away for a SECOND... he will pee on the carpet!!! WHY??? Why is he doing this? Okay... this morning... you won't believe this. I spent 25 minutes following him around waiting for him to make his am release. I put him on the paper, I said "go potty!" I sat and watched him. I finally had to get in the shower and get ready for work. I brought him with me into the bathroom. NOTHING. He wouldn't go. I know he had to because he started to on the carpet and I interrupted him by swiftly lifting him and putting him on the paper. Plus he hadn't had his morning pee. So, the 25 minutes go by. I'm out of the shower... I put him on the paper... and say "go potty!" nothing -- he lays down on the paper. I change the paper thinking maybe it's too soiled for him... nothing. I wait. Nothing. So, proceeding to get dressed... I put Maxi on my bed (that he too sleeps on... )and I turn my back. I turned back around to see him squatting and PEEING HIS LONG MORNING PEE ON MY BED!!! WHHHYYYYYYY???? WHAT TO DO?????? Here's where I'm going to get tssk tssk'd. I lost it. I yelled NO! and spanked his bottom several times. Hard. He yelped., no, he screamed BLOODY MURDER. He was DEVASTATED! I know it was wrong. I understand if you all are upset with me. I KNOW Maxi didn't deserve this at all. I don't wish to do this again... but I was completely frustrated and I think it was just pent up from all the pee and poop I've been patiently and silently cleaning up for the past 4 weeks. I've been working so hard to follow the training manuals by being silent when he's doing the unfavorable and lots of praise when he's good. I spend everyday WATCHING him like a hawk. I shower him with love and attention and play with him for at least an hour everynight. In addition to my husband and son. He is always underfoot, following me everywhere... can't stand to have me out of his site. He has mastered the come, sit, stay, and up! command and is now learning to roll over. In every way... he seems to know who's boss and he is very receptive to my commands. BUT, All it takes is a SECOND for me to turn away or blink and he's going on the carpet! He doesn't run to me when he does this for a treat so he must know he's wrong! Right? I'm prepared to do whatever it takes to make amends for spanking my furbaby. I understand that this is along the lines of abuse and I do not wish to make him fearful of me. After I spanked his bottom he ran from me and hid. He would not come when I called. I put him in his crate to cool off. I left the house and 20 mins later I returned to console him and to feed him and give him his meds. He was hesitant but soon back to his upbeat and spirited self. I regret that I lost it on him and I don't want to give him up to a "more loving and tolerant home" as someone may suggest. I want to do what it takes to be more loveable and tolerant of his mistakes. I would like to understand why he is peeing and pooping around the house even though he appears to know better. How many papers should I have down? How often do I need to change the paper? Any help or insight would be most appreciated. BTW, at this time, he does not go outside at all, due to the kennel cough and the fact that he doesn't have all his shots. Also, is it a problem that he sleeps in the bed with me? He usually sleeps at the foot of the bed. I tried to break him out of it by putting a bed in my room ( a nice tent bed) but he insists on coming up on the bed and will whimper and attempt to jump up and bark like crazy. When I pick him up on the bed... he is so grateful he can't stop kissing me. I don't mind him on the bed... but want to make sure that I haven't done something wrong. One other thing that bothers me... He likes to go in the kitchen and scavenge for food particles and juices that may be on the floor. This drives me NUTS. He'll have food in his bowl... but I can't get him from sneaking into the kitchen. I will be getting a gate soon, but since I have let him have the run of the apartment, I know he will have a hard time with this. I put up pillows as a blockade and he kept at it until he found a way to get past them. Experienced yorkie mommies and daddies please help me! Last edited by Honeychile; 11-29-2005 at 02:59 PM.