OMG, I just read thru this entire thread, and I am totally at a loss for words. I cannot even begin to imagine what you are going through right now but you are sooo positive and I think that's a *great* way to be during all of this. Your energy will also affect Layla - I truly believe that.
I am so hoping for the best for you guys and I will be thinking of you all tonight, tomorrow, and the next day, and the next week, and... you get the picture! I'm just so sorry to hear of this.