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Originally Posted by Cha Cha  Seriously! I could not have said this better myself. When my dh and I built our house, we got a master bathroom off of our bedroom with dual sinks. Ok, very common right? Well, nothing will turn me off faster than being in there with him. Ladies, there is nuttin sexy about the way a man takes care of his personal hygene!  So, we do NOT have together time in the bathroom.. I leave if he comes in there even to brush his teeth! I have been married going on 25 years and intimate moments are something I always have and still do look forward to with my dh. I know all the BC hormones, depression and all that stuff plays a huge part...been there done that, including anti-depressants and hysterectomy. But, if your man is really in tune to your needs it does makes a HUGE difference and helps when the other things make it difficult. I know it is a subject that is often hard to talk to your spouse about, but do talk about it. Maybe he does not know what he needs to do to make you happy. Maybe you don't really know. Go on line and read, oh, COSMO magazine is great! My dd subscribed to that magazine, and my dh was the first to read it when it came in the mail.....hilarious!!!! |
i agree with that! it was a huge relief when i was honest and told my husband i didn't care about sex. it saved us BOTH a lot of time and wasted energy. it came up pretty easily because he recognized i didn't want to. it would be harder to talk about if there was something sexual i wanted him to do that he wasn't doing or willing to do. i don't know how i'd handle that cus it's very awkward/embarrassing for me to talk about. luckily, i don't have that problem with him doing what it takes for me - so i feel sorry for the OP in that sense.