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Originally Posted by kdreamson  Yep this is me too! To the op... Girl, maybe it's not you at all! Maybe it's him that is just not getting you goin anymore! Why do we always blame ourselves!? I just have trouble getting in the mood with dh after i have to wash his nasty underwear or stepping into a big wet puddle in front of the toilet(in my socks of course!  ) We girls sometimes can't forget all that crap we have to put up with! Men are different...they can have sex with a woman they dislike just to have sex. I know we have needs but we also need to feel apprechiated & loved. So ask yourself...What has HE done for me lately? |
Seriously! I could not have said this better myself. When my dh and I built our house, we got a master bathroom off of our bedroom with dual sinks. Ok, very common right? Well, nothing will turn me off faster than being in there with him. Ladies, there is nuttin sexy about the way a man takes care of his personal hygene!
So, we do NOT have together time in the bathroom.. I leave if he comes in there even to brush his teeth! I have been married going on 25 years and intimate moments are something I always have and still do look forward to with my dh. I know all the BC hormones, depression and all that stuff plays a huge part...been there done that, including anti-depressants and hysterectomy. But, if your man is really in tune to your needs it does makes a HUGE difference and helps when the other things make it difficult. I know it is a subject that is often hard to talk to your spouse about, but do talk about it. Maybe he does not know what he needs to do to make you happy. Maybe you don't really know. Go on line and read, oh, COSMO magazine is great! My dd subscribed to that magazine, and my dh was the first to read it when it came in the mail.....hilarious!!!!