Sorry, I'm not on board for the strip club at all.
This has never happened to me. Ever. But I have a friend who had the same problem her whole married life. She thought she had no desire. She ended up divorced and met a different guy. Guess what? She wants to do it all the time now. In her case it was the guy.
I'd rule out any medical issues. The pill can cause lack of desire. So can weight and depression. (I had weight issues after my kids but even then I still had tons of desire.)
Sometimes, though, when you don't do something, you don't feel like it (like going to the gym ... once you get there, it's fine. Same with sex.) Sometimes you just need to do it to get back in the swing of it. And think about it. Think about what you like and want. Get some romance and spark back. Text your husband with a risky message. Go to a hotel for a night. Buy yourself something pretty. Even if you have weight hanging on, you can buy something pretty. When you feel better about yourself, you won't be so self-conscious. Get your husband on board with it. Get him to pay attention to you. When we get caught up with being wives, moms, employees we sometimes lose us. Learn to be nice to yourself and take some time for yourself. And be affectionate. Be very affectionate. It's hard to jump into feeling sexy when you've been running your tail off all day. When couples are affectionate at other times, it's easier to transition. Hug a lot. Touch a lot.
As far as dryness, there's things you can buy to rectify that.
You can get the romance back if you want. You're way too young to be living a sexless life (everyone is in my opinion.) Sex and love are too important a part of a relationship to do without or do it by just going through the motions.
Good luck. |