I just want to thank everyone for their great advice! I am now armed with Nutiva, Calendula ointment and children's benadryl.
Missy's doing a lot better. Scrathcing and rubbing her ears on the carpet is way down. She still does it but not very often Don't know if this is just normal scratching or still because of the irritation. I'm still nervous because she's almost back to her normal self but not quite. She's eating, but not as much as usual. She's still as energetic as ever though!!
I've been using the coconut oil on her belly and the belly scratching is almost gone! Where she drew blood is drying up. Her ears are not pink at all until she scratches or rubs them!
And then they stay pink for soooo long. I will try the Celendula on her ears today and see if that helps.
Again, thank you all for your help! I seriously don't know what I would do without you all and YT. Sometimes you just need more than what your Vet tells you, ya know?