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Old 04-11-2010, 06:33 AM   #21
Cirlonde
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Wow, this is a thread that really fits me! I'm 25 and I will have been married for four years in May. My husband and I started dating when I was a junior in high school, so we've been committed for almost nine years. People who know us tend to expect us to have had kids by now. My mom is an absolutely wonderful mother, and while we do talk about my future children, it's only when I bring it up and she never pesters. However, she's about the only one who is that respectful!!

My husband is finishing up grad school while trying to gain experience in his field at a job he doesn't particularly love (hoping to move on up soon) and currently we're living in a mediocre 2 bedroom duplex in a town I don't really care for that is two hours away from my family. Not an ideal place for raising kids, in my opinion. There's a very good chance that we will be moving again within two years, if my husband gets a better job offer and moving is hard enough without a young child.


Also, I recently had iodine radiation treatment on my thyroid and I have to wait at
least a year before trying for kids as it can be dangerous for the baby. June will be one year, but the longer I wait, the less worry there is for a kid. Basically making sure that all the radiation is out of my system and that my thyroid hormone is regulated. Now...can't you just see me trying to explain this to a family member, let alone a stranger or new co-worker?? And this is the short version!!! I'm also, as others have said, a pretty selfish person. I know that raising a child is a huge sacrifice and I want to be prepared for that before I bring a little person into this world that is my responsibility. My Yorkie is definitely my "surrogate" child at the moment. Pictures and stories that most adults have of their kids, I have of my dog!

Now my other worry is that I do want kids, and I'm scared of waiting too long to have them...I don't really want to be 50 when they graduate high school or something. I just keep hoping and praying that everything falls into place at the right time!! So, since I do want at least one child (no more than two), I don't really get offended when people ask about children. But...as you can see above, when asked, I have a very verbose explanation. Most people who are asking don't really care. It's like the Wal-Mart cashier asking "How are you?"; she doesn't really want to know, it's just a polite social response. I feel like...if you don't really care about the full answer then don't ask the question. At least on a forum, you guys can choose not to read the answer if you're not interested and I'll never know!

-C
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