something else annoying is when you DO have kids and you aren't married. 40% of births are to single mothers - and no, single mothers doesn't mean poor mothers or teen mothers. i was a "single mother" before i got married, even though i was very much involved and supported by my now husband.
everyone would ask, "when are you getting married?" or "why aren't you married?" i would say, "people get married for two reasons -religious or financial. we aren't religious, and until one of us has a financial benefit, there's no reason." that was the truth! our truth, anyway.
insurance - inheritance - etc.
now we're married - and if he dies - my kids and i will be okay. signing those papers didn't change a thing emotionally- i don't feel any different than i did for the 6 years we were together beforehand. all it did was save a legal battle if something bad happens. |