[nana911]

Boy, there are so many sides to this issue. Being a foreign born adoptee that came from an orphanage, adopted at almost 2yrs old by overly strict religious parents who were emotionally and physically abusive. She, one summer DID try to ship me back, at the age of 12, I can see a couple of sides. I've also read cases where unstable, violent adoptees grow up to return to their adopted families and kill them in their beds. Scary stuff. Where do you draw the line? When do you take chances with your safety on someone that may or may not be rehabilitated? Most adopting parents are in it for the right reasons. Mine adopted 3 for all the wrong reasons. My middle brother and I, coming from the same orphanage (he was adopted at age 5) both suffer from reactive attachment disorder. (the youngest was adopted locally at 3days old) I am able to terminate a relationship with no lasting emotional consequences. I don't understand people that miss their parents, kids, grandkids, have roots, etc... I fulfill the socially obligatory roles and I do love my kids and grandkids. I am over the moon about my furbabies....LOL

Anyway, I guess I'm saying that if that woman was scared enough she did what she felt she had to do. Or she was like my mom and she was just abusive and carried through on a threat. There is more than one side.