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Originally Posted by lulumom  i'm having a hard time writing this but i need to get something off of my chest and have no safe means to do so but here.
i am the sole parent of four. i have twins (almost 17), a 12 year old, and an 11 year old. i love them to the moon and back times infinity but sometimes, i feel completely inadequate.
it was always important to me to instill compassion, empathy, gratitude, selflessness, respect in my kids. i wanted to raise kind human beings. i've put them in positions that would nurture those traits whenever possible.
anymore, i feel only doubt and worry because to tell the truth, they treat me like crap an awful lot of the time. sometimes i wish they would remember that there's only one of me and four of them, and that i'm human too.
i know that people have it worse and i hate complaining. some days are just more difficult that others. hopefully this doesn't make me sound like the worst mother on earth. i love them so...i guess that's why it hurts so much.
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You need to remind them that there is only one of you and that you are human too.
I raised 6 kids by myself, with no relatives near by to help. When things would get tough rand they would come down on me, I would let them know that they were not prisoners, but this is my house I pay the bills, I make the rules. If you don't like it, you are free to leave.
Not once did any of them even try to leave.
The harder you try to please them the more they are going to push. stand your ground.
Good Luck. they eventually do grow up to be nice people. ;-)