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Originally Posted by BellaBlue82  I don't agree with those on here replying that teenagers always act like that to their parents, and it's ok. It's not ok. I NEVER would have talked back to or disrespected my parents or I would have gotten smacked across the room (and I'm only 27, so you can't say, "Oh, that was back in the day!"). You children will treat you how you allow them to treat you. They are absolutely a product of their environment. I do agree that you need to sit down with them, and firmly let them know that you will not tolerate any type of disrespectful behavior in your home and if it continues then there will be consequences. Put your foot down mom! I know you're overwhelmed and doing the absolute best that you can, but YOU are the mom! Show them who's boss! |
I think it's important to teach kids from a young age to do good things and behave well because they WANT to, not because they'll get hit if they don't. I'm not saying that I think that's the only reason that you are a good person today, but what you said about how you would have been smacked across the mouth. I don't talk to my parents like that because I don't WANT to, not because they'll hit me if I do.
My brother on the other hand
is going through that stage now and there's been times that even I have wanted to beat him to death...I don't know how my parents resist the temptation.
I think, like the others, it's important to sit down and talk to each other as a family unit. Don't try to shove it as "I'm the mom, you're the kids, do what I say" - but rather as what you should do as a family to make it work for everyone.
I'm not a parent or anything, but this is mostly the route that my parents took and I've turned out OK, I think
(and my brother will catch up eventually. even if he's 2 years older than me
).
Best of luck! Try not to let them upset you too much - they're probably just frustrated with everything.