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Originally Posted by BellaBlue82  I don't agree with those on here replying that teenagers always act like that to their parents, and it's ok. It's not ok. I NEVER would have talked back to or disrespected my parents or I would have gotten smacked across the room (and I'm only 27, so you can't say, "Oh, that was back in the day!"). You children will treat you how you allow them to treat you. They are absolutely a product of their environment. I do agree that you need to sit down with them, and firmly let them know that you will not tolerate any type of disrespectful behavior in your home and if it continues then there will be consequences. Put your foot down mom! I know you're overwhelmed and doing the absolute best that you can, but YOU are the mom! Show them who's boss! |
Yikes, many people gave me that advice when my kids were young, I'm glad I didn't follow it. I think it would be horrible to smack my kids in the mouth, it just teaches them that it's ok to hit others if you feel like they aren't respecting you. No one is saying that it's ok for kids to disrespect their parents, we are saying that you can't take it to heart when they act like they don't love you or even say that they hate you. I remember hearing the time my son told me he hated me, I told him "That's ok, I still love you, but it hurts my feelings when you say things like that to me." He only told me he hated me once, (or twice
) and he shows me now as an adult that he cares very much for my feelings. Even more importantly, his wife tells me how wonderful and thoughtful he is to her. It's not just a parents job to get a child to "behave" and respect authority and stay out of jail, its a parents job to help a child love and respect themselves, and this enables them to make good choices in life. Without self-love and self-respect they can't really love and respect others.