Hi all...thanks for all the responses
Here I sit 24 hrs later and basically think we should stick with the plan of just getting the new puppy. I am a little concerned about bringing home the new baby and having a bigger boy and Max both...I am sure they would be fine and would all love each other, but I am trying to think logically...

(really sucks)
This afternoon my wife said lets just get him....go figure, of course I feel this way now, but we are going to go get the new baby(Otis) tomorrow for my daughter....a few days earlier than we thought but the breeder said he is ready and doing well.....but I am VERY worried that when I see "Roly" again I may break.....we will see.....
Thanks again, I really appreciate all of your opiones and advice.....I just love this place......
Happy Easter!