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I *really* hope this thread does not devolve into a debate about etiquette. If that argument has to happen, I'd like to suggest taking it to another thread so this poster has some space to grieve. I definitely have an opinion about some of what's been said here, but I'm going to keep it to myself, as it's obvious at this point that any comment about what's been said will just provoke another response, which will provoke someone else, etc.

To the OP - I do not have any advice, but I am SO sorry, I know you must be absolutely devastated.