[J_is_my_initial]

My birthday is the 19th, my younger sister in law's the 18th. It will be her 30th and my 46th. Here is where I think the selfish part comes in (can't help how I feel).
My youngest bro in law and his girlfriend spend christmas eve evening with my family. That includes my parents, sis, bro and his wife and my aunt. My parents have practically adopted bil since he helps so much when my hubby does things for them. My aunt gave everyone there a gift card to a buffet restruant and my mom sd that way we can all go and eat together. So I was thinking that we could go the 23rd and celebrate my birthday. Before I could mention to hubby, he sd his bro sd we could all go next weekend to celebrate thier sister's birthday since it is a milestone one. I feel that my parents and aunt would not want to go if it was just for her. They are not close to her. My dtr sd we could celebrate both, but not sure how sis in law would feel sharing it with me. I also wonder if it would be selfish to suggest it with both of us. What do you think? I have not asked my parents what they think. I do not really want to put them on the spot where they feel compelled to say yes.