Okay okay, right it is a matter opinion I guess.
I always try to treat people with "respect". Treat others as I myself would like to be treated. If I don't agree with someone and I think it's an important issue, I will say what I think in a nice way.
I never said that honesty is rudeness, what I sais was it possible to be honest in a decent way.
I can see that there is no light at the end of this tunnel so this is me throwing up my hands and going back to my corner.