I am heartbroken reading this thread.
but how wonderful to see that you guys have turned out well and some of you are even doing a great job of raising your own families. My mom and I are incredibly close, she is litterally my best friend. I'm 16, and most of my friends right now "hate" their moms for one reason or another (usually a stupid one. Not like you guys, who have legit reasons to not be close to your moms), and I'm so grateful that I'm not going through that stage. I think a lot of the reason I have skipped the "parents suck" stage is because my mom became sick & disabled when I was about 12...so it kind of changed everything and the way I view the things that happen to me.
My dad and I don't get along as well as I'd like, though.
We love each other a lot, but he works really hard to take care of the family (since my mom can't work), and doesn't sleep much, and is constantly stressed about money, so he's not such a pleasent person to be around all the time. I don't blame him, because he's under so much stress with taking care of my mom and all of us. I'm sure that one day when this is past us my dad and I will be very close, because the times when he's not thinking about all of his problems, we have a great time together.