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Originally Posted by Cha Cha  I worry about this statement. And, the more you are there to help him out of a crisis the more you are enabling him. I am old! I grew up with alcoholism. I will tell you this, 20 years ago my Dh got arrested for careless driving (he had been drinking, and spun out right in front of a cop), and he had my 2 yr old daughter in the car  . When he got to the police station, he was NOT over the legal limit so he was not legally drunk, but he needed a ride. The cops let his buddy take my daughter-which made me even madder! When his buddy called me to go get my hubby, I told him I would be right there to get my daughter but my DH could rot in jail. He had to get himself out. From that point on, he cleaned up his act, and he KNEW I would not get him out of a stupid situation. We have never had an alcohol related incident since. |
That's good that the situation with your dh got resolved. You did the right thing. I could have decided not to help him and I didn't want to but I care about him. also i know that if i didnt help him his coworkers would wash his brain and tell him what a bad gf i am. It def. is a problem. I also dont know how he would have gotten home because his coworkers live in Long Island and the other had to stay to clean up. I should have left it their problem.
He doesn't drink a lot..like even when all our friends are hanging out he doesn't drink sometimes..it's just that once he starts drinking..at least last night cause it was his bday he just kept going and going cause everyone kept telling him to take more shots. He doesn't know how to say no and that's the problem. I already told him this is the last time this happens..I won't deal with it. It is not an ongoing thing, that is why i decided to help him, that and cause i love him. But if it were something that happens over and over again i would not be there to take care of him. I don't want to be his babysitter