My prayers are with you and your children. I know how difficult this can be. I lost my husband at the age of 29. I was left with 3 children 5,8,10 at the time. It is now 6 years later. The best way that my children and I have been able to heal, We have always been open and talked about their dad. They still ask me questions about personality, ect... My son noticed a mole on his back the other day and asked me if his dad had moles
My best advice to you is just be open to your children and let them ask questions
I just remarried this summer and we are still open and have pictures of my first husband around (we will always miss him- god helps us become who we are) Take each day as it comes, I know some are more difficult then others but we always manage to make it work.