Danyell, you're definitely not the only one in that boat. My own parents live 3 miles away, but I haven't seen or spoken with them in years. My father was extremely abusive to me from the time I can remember in every way imaginable, and my mother did nothing to help me. She blamed me when it happened. Over the years I tried to be whatever it was I thought would make her love me. I have an older brother and a younger sister who were treated very well. I spent years trying to get the same. I have 3 great sons who she had very little to do with while they were growing up. The final straw was a few years ago when my great-niece was sexually abused by my sister's son, and they supported the abuser. I decided at that point I no longer wanted them in my life.
It has taken me a long time to get to the point I"m at today. It wasn't easy, but it was the right thing to do. I totally agree with you, at least it's taking some control over our lives. I'm blessed with a wonderful husband, 3 great adult sons, and 5 beautiful grandkids. There are times when I do feel that twinge of sadness, but she made the choice to miss out on a great daughter. I have a feeling your mother did the same.
It doesn't make the situation any better, but at least we know we're not alone. Blessings to you and your family, and if you ever want to talk I'm here.
