I think whatever you feel better doing, do.
I understand the rule and being taken to the cleaner's. I've been there
a couple times here on YT. I felt different about this somehow.
As long as you help in your way is all that I believe she's asking.
I don't think she even thought about sending a donation on your own
directly to the shelter to be honest. But that was a great idea, plus
you can use it as a tax write off.