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Originally Posted by Lorrainelola  This thread is getting more and more upsetting. How can the husband justify his 61" tv and stop you getting something you want, and as for the camera, that money was given to you to buy the camera. I would have probably throttled him with the neck strap of it!!!! As I said in a previous post I was bullied and controlled by my 1st husband. It went on for 16years and by the end if he said white was black I would have believed him. The turning point for me was when I was diagnosed with type1 diabetes and didn't get any help or support from him even when I was rushed into hospital. That day I thought if I can cope with this on my own I can cope with anything. Financially things were tight for me when I bought my own place and then my life turned totally around when I met my new husband. We talk about everything and sometimes he gets his way and sometimes I get mine.
well thats my life story for you. You had the accident then the compensation money is yours and he should be man enough to accept that. And it sounds as though he was a bit jealous of when you were given the money for your camera.
I had better get off my soap box now, sorry. x |
Here is the bottom line: When you are married (or in a commited relationship where you finacially depend on eachother) I don't care who has the money or where the money is coming from accident or not, every decission should be made together. And this of all decissions involves a lot of money and a it is a big huge commitment.
I am all about saying "oh just buy the puppy blah blah blah" but truthfully, when it comes down to it--- this is a huge and expensive decission that needs to be thought through and talked about and decided upon TOGETHER.
Somebody posted earlier that one of the most important things in a marriage is mutaul respect for one another. That means you need to respect him enough to talk this out and not go behind his back AND if he truly truly does not want the puppy than I really think that at this time you do need to respect that.
But from the other side- he also needs to respect your wishes and listen to you and hear you out.
Sounds to me like you two need to sit down and have a serious talk-- all jokes and puppy dog eyes put aside
I just got a puppy and I have a grown dog and my god they are so much work. Getting a new puppy is like deciding to have another baby.... it's not something that you just go and do.... like "whoops I just won't take my birth controll this month" If that sounds crazy to you then you should think about what you are saying when you want to go behind his back and just get the puppy---- ITS THE SAME SITUATION. Babies and puppies need care, shots, training, and the list goes on and on--- they are both little time sucks!
Anyways- I am sure you are much wiser and experienced than I am.... but I just wanted you to know my opinion since I hadn't really spoken out on this post truthfully
I really do hope that you guys can work it out.