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Originally Posted by yorkielover916 Yes I do keep pushing, and I do it lightheartedly, I have been asking for a yorkie, not just another dog for the past 2 yrs. so he has had plenty of time to warm up to the idea of getting another puppy. I know that its an expensive long term life commitment that is why I want him to be on the same page w/ me about getting this puppy, but for him paying for a dog is the thing, remember we were given our dogs, we didnt pay for them. Now that I will be receiving a settlement I have the money to get the puppy, this is money we wouldn't have had, and if I wasnt getting this money I would still be saving for my pup. He feels like we could spend the money on something else and not a dog. I feel that since this money has come to me and b/c I got hurt I should be able to spend this money how I want. but I am smart enough to realize that this puppy is a commitment and that he should be in agreement w/ me. Until then I am going to keep asking him its not fair that when he wants something weather its a projector for his game room or a new surround sound for the living room that I don't tell him we cant afford it, even though I know we cant, he still gets what he wants. and no those things are not living things but they can be just as expensive. |
It sounds to me like you and your husband have other issues you need to work on before you get another dog. If you had worked to save for the puppy all along with him knowing it, and now that you have the money he was changing his mind, I would be upset. But, obviously for what ever reason, you have come into a sum of money and you want to use this money to pay for a dog. He obviously has other ideas for this money. You feel since you were the one injured it is your money??? How would you feel if the shoe were on the other foot? This opens the door for many future arguments over money. Do you share your bills mutually, or other income mutually? If so, then the way this money is spent, even if it was you that got injured (sorry about that btw) should be decided upon mutually or there will be resentments for a long time to come. Ok, you wanted honesty, and I speak from experience. Work out your real issues first.