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Originally Posted by Lorrainelola  A marriage is give and take. Its nothing about being disrespectful to her husband. That sounds a very victorian view. I wonder if you think it is alright for a husband to do as they please. Men and women are equal. Oh ignore me, its late here but I just hope that she does get the dog she wants, life is far too short to quibble over whether to get a dog or not. If the husband gets his way does that mean he is being selfish? Sorry if i offend anyone, its not my intention. |
If you've read ALL OF MY POSTS, you would see that I have been advocating for equality this entire time. I do not believe husbands should "do as they please" but I also don't believe the woman should either.
I also mentioned I didn't want her fighting over a dog in her marriage, and I don't think he's being selfish if he doesn't get his way.
I think that he's got the entire picture in mind, and
she doesn't.
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Originally Posted by JeanieK Only she knows how solid her relationship is and if they can afford it. I would not do it behind his back, I would tell him, I really want a yorkie and I am going to get one. |
You wouldn't do it behind his back, but you'd stomp your foot and say you're getting one anyway?
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Originally Posted by gemy I've read the posts on this topic - I agree with joint decisions on major purchases, and long term commitments. A dog is both!. Adding a third dog to the household isn't just about additional food/vet/grooming etc, expense. It may change how/when/where you travel - the vacations you take etc. We have three dogs now, and it's quite a commitment of time and energy. We have 2 large dogs and one small one. I couldn't do this alone. My hubby helps out with the washing and walking of our dogs. Helps me take them to the shows - he does sometimes feels like a BOB.
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Gemy's right. This was it was trying to say all along.
It's a big decision financially, and there is a big commitment attached to it. It's also a lifestyle change for the household and something everyone should be in agreement with.