My heart breaks for you. You and your husband are in my thoughts, I hope you find some peace. I don't have any advice to give to you, sorry, but I wanted to let you know that you're in my thoughts and prayers. I can't imagine losing one of my own, and yes, they are just the same as children. Give Valentine lots of extra hugs and kisses, as she's feeling the pain, too. RIP Ender
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Tara & Arthur Chloe, Maya, Mallory, & Marina