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Originally Posted by EnderandVal  [F]This past Friday, my husband and I, lost our little Ender. He was only 4 years old. It was an absolutely tragic accident, that both of us are having the hardest time dealing with....and know that we will never get over. We've been married for 9 1/2 years, and haven't been able to have children, so Ender and Valentine ARE our children in every sense of the word. My husband gave little Ender to me as a gift to keep me company while he was in law school. A year later, we got Valentine to be a companion for Ender. We love both of them more than life itself. Not only is this effecting my husband and I, but Valentine as well. It breaks our heart to watch her sit in the entrance to our living room, staring at the door, like she's waiting for Ender to come running through it. Every time we've cried because we miss him so much, she's ran and hid. I know she's hurting, because she's lost Ender too. She won't play anymore.....it's like she's just not the same without him.....we just don't know what to do. From what I've read, people recommend getting a new dog for her to have as a companion to fill that void....but I am having that hardest time convincing myself that's what needs to be done. I don't want to replace Ender, because he is absolutely irreplaceable. The thought of having him gone just breaks my heart, but I know Valentine is suffering also. What should we do for Val?[/FONT] |
My heart breaks for you and your husband. I know what it feels like when you lose one of your babies.
When I lost Tuffy suddenly and I felt so bad, my son gave me a week to get another Yorkie, not to replace Tuffy, because she was irreplaceable. You will never forget her, the memories of all the love and joy she gave both will be forever in your hearts. She will always remain a part of the family. One day you'll see her again. My son knew what was best and he was right.
Accidents happen in life, sometimes you ask why, but you have to remember things happen and you learn.
When I got Punken Pie after Tuffy's passing, it was like having another baby to take of.
I remember when my children were going up and we always had two dogs and they kept each other company. When Code 3 passed, it was difficult on our other dog. Heidi would keek checking the yard for him and was very restless. We made the decision to get another dog so our precious Heidi wouldn't be so lonely.
That's when I got Tuffy. Mind you, Heidi was a German Sherpard and here I bring a little girl into our home. They had a bond like you wouldn't believe, I feel that the right decision was made.
In time you and your husband will heal. My advice, add an additional baby to your family. That why God made dogs, he knew we needed them.
Both of you will be in my prayers and the right decision will be made.
Take Care and God Bless...
Kathleen Mom To My Little Girls: Punken Pie
Breese Be Be
RIP Lil Ol Tuffy
