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whatever your personal experience I don't know if you have worked in helping others like yourself and worse. I never said this was a total solution. There is no such thing as one thing that will work, but a lot of things do help. I have worked with these women for 24 years and found being around the dogs helps. So have many treatment centers who use horses and dolphins. But many urban youth can't afford to go to the places that have horses and dolphins. Nor are there as many jobs they can get caring for them as much as they could if they were learning dog training and grooming. I am glad to hear dogs hasnt helped you heal at all despite the fact you do bave one and belong to this group and yet claim they dont offer the healing and love I say that do that does help abuse victims. But they have worked with many others and I am just trying to get something started to help them and the number of dogs going without homes at the same time. I also do this all as volunteer work. How much volunteer work do you do to help other abused women like yourself heal? If you do care about them then maybe you should ask me more questions about this and see how you might be able to help instead of tearing anything new and alien down like most abuse victims do without proper treatment
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this was the second private PM i received....I have two dogs... Which DID NOT HELP ME HEAL i did not get them until i was okay on my own. I could not take another responsibility on after all i needed was time by myself to think and heal myself. I was almost killed by my ex, i had all ribs fractured... i remeber staying in bed without being able to get out for days do to the pain and no medical care..cause how would they take me to medical care when he was the one who caused all my injuries... and a dog wouldnt of made me getting out of the situation better, it wouldn't of let me focus on me.. im not saying that it wont work in time.. im just saying that i dont find it to be what most women who have been abused and have problems need.
Women like me who have been abused in the past, what we need a a good friend to hear us not a dog... I got my dog when i was good, when i was finally happy again and in that my dogs have given me the biggest joy because i was happy before them and now with them and my husband my life in complete. but i do stress that this was AFTER i felt better about what i had been through, not before. And i have said it before i feel strongly about this.